It's a crappy holiday. The only people who really enjoy it are the smug, obnoxious couples who rub their happiness in everyone's faces every other day of the year anyway. It's an arbitrary date that celebrates something which, if you have it, you should be celebrating it all the time (in private, of course. Nobody wants to see that stuff on Facebook). And if you don't have it, regardless of how or why, you feel like a bit of a loser.
If you've just started dating someone, it's super awkward. You have to acknowledge the day, but to what extent? One year I had a boyfriend on Valentine's Day, things were pretty new but quite serious. He made me dinner at his place, so I made him a card. It was a cute cartoon guy wearing boxers with hearts on them - Mr Lovepants, his name was. My boyfriend said me he got me something, but I'd seen it before. "It's not your penis, is it?" He laughed, went to his room and returned with a familiar-looking shopping bag, which I opened to find two ice trays inside. "Ice trays?" you ask. Ice trays indeed. We had purchased them the day before, and I was under the impression that they were for his new apartment. I'm certain they were, actually, he just forgot to get me something and didn't want to say so. I should have run then and there...
I'm not bitter. I relish being single a lot of the time, but if you happen to be single on Valentine's, it's like you're defective or something. I'm not knocking the entire concept - everybody loves being in love - who doesn't aspire to that? But for some of us it's just not in our grasp yet. That's why this year I will be using the day to celebrate what I love about being just with me!
A few (of many) things that are great about being single:
- You can do what you want, when you want, and don't have to run your plans by anyone else (or worse, have your plans vetoed by anyone else!)
- The world is full of possibility - if you meet someone amazing, you are free to flirt with them
- You can watch the movie/TV show you want to watch, always
- When your friends complain about their douchebag boyfriend who is being grumpy and impossible, you can smile to yourself and think "not my problem!"
- No fighting over the duvet - you have your king-sized bed all to yourself!
- You don't have to shave conscientiously if you don't feel like it
- You can focus all your attention on your own dreams and ambitions without needing to consider how they affect someone else.