Thursday, May 14, 2009
This afternoon some of my friends and I are going to Sexpo, a sexuality and lifestyle expo at the Cape Town International Convention Centre. I went last year, so there's a good reason I'm going this year.
I enjoyed it - mostly for the fact that I was a little bit in awe of the whole thing, but probably not for the reasons you think. Sure, there were human size penises and boobs wandering around, and strippers poledancing, and vibrator demonstrations and all of the other things you'd expect to find at such an event.
What I love about Sexpo though, is that all of these naughty things are taking place in an atmosphere which is welcoming, educational, and friendly. Nobody made me feel dirty for being there, the whole experience was very matter of fact and normal. The shop assistants, many of them normal-looking women, were friendly and helpful. The clientele ranged from just-turned-18s who looked a bit nervous to be there, as if someone might throw them out at any moment (wait, maybe they weren't 18); people my own age, middle aged couples, old couples, gay couples, interracial couples, and also lots of friends (probably not family).
I had expected to be made to feel like a complete fraud for going there and looking at these things when I had nobody with whom to share them, but one of the overarching themes of the exhibitions was, as one brand of sex toys puts it, "love yourself".
That's something everyone can learn from.